Saturday, March 10, 2007


Advice From Oprah About Men
I know this is anything but timely for me. I have no "man" in my life after all (as equivocal as it may sound - and please, dont ask. HAHA). I havent found the time to actually lie down on my bed, open a word document, and finally type down all the mental notes Ive taken and all the withheld ideas Ive been keeping. I also have pending replies to give, and imminent answers to reveal. But for now, for lack of a better entry (and because all three of my brothers are right behind me), Ill only be posting this list that I found in Eibee's LJ. Why am I reposting it? Well, its from Oprah, isnt it? :)

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ADVICE FROM OPRAH ABOUT MEN

* If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
* If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
* Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.
* Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
* Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
* Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

* Slower is better.
* Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
* If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends".
* A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
* Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

* Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
* The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
* Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
* Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
* Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

* If something bothers you, speak up.
* Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
* You cannot change a man's behaviour. Change comes from within.
* Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.
* Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

* Never let a man define who you are.
* Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
* A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
* You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is two way street.
* You need time to heal between relationships...

* There is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
* You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary... not supplementary.
* Dating is fun... even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
* Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him – he takes it for granted.
* Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
- n|x - was loved at 8:43 PM
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