Friday, December 28, 2007


Finding A Match
It all starts with a want, a need, or both. You have requirements you have to meet and qualifications to be fulfilled. You set parameters and recognize your limits. You think of what you can willingly give and what you want to receive in return. You familiarize yourself with the details - from where they will be kept, how they will be fed, and how they will survive in unfamiliar territory.

Naturally, the search comes next. The tedious and often-tiring search for that one perfect match.

You find ones that are very qualified - impressive backgrounds and promising personalities - but then they refuse your offer because, well, theyre just too good for it.

Then there are those who come to you first, bugging you everyday for a reply. They can either make contact directly, or if theyre new to it or just apprehensive of the whole process, they ask for the help of a mediator. You can choose to build a relationship with the middleman or the subject - depends on how you meet halfway and agree upon the conditions of your exchange.

Some nonchalantly check you out. Other scrutinize every single detail.

Some choose to show great interest in the beginning, only to stop responding and leave you hanging - never making their presence felt ever again.

Still, a few good ones do get through sometimes. Casual meetings, informal talks, and constant communication that keep your hopes up for a match. But then you find out that theyre not ready to invest more than what they have already shown. Either they were just testing the waters or were in it for fun. Or they werent ready. Or were afraid.

Some who are just not good enough often resort to subtle sweettalk or annoying arrogance, incessantly insisting that the job is for them when in fact, they are of poor quality. Only they dont realize it.

Then of course there are the elusive and the indecisive. They express their interest one day, and then you receive nothing the rest of the week. Another message comes through, ambiguous and cryptic yes, but you still reply anyway in the hope that a decision is finally made. But it takes days, weeks, even months for your actions to be reciprocated. And then it happens again and again until it becomes repulsive.

Lets not forget the matches that fit yours perfectly. Everything looks good until you find out that theyre already someone else's perfect match. They may actually be interested, though in secret, and you can try to negotiate and get it back - but you cant break the rules - you know its too late.

One could go on narrating the many situations to be in, the many dilemmas to be encountered, and the countless deadends to be faced. Some people may think youre more qualified than the rest, even pushing you to be more aggressive to get what you deserve. Some see you as someone ahead of your time or someone who has completely fallen behind.
But who cares what other people think? Its getting the job done that will matter in the end. And no matter how hard you work for it, how much time and effort you invest in it, or how badly you want it - as long as you dont have a match, your very purpose is left unfulfilled.

So you go on with the search, going after who you think is right, even letting go of whatever is left with you. And until you find that match, although far from the ideal, but still perfect for you...

thats when you find out that it was all worth it.
- n|x - was loved at 1:23 PM
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